To live life without regrets doesn’t mean you never make a mistake. It doesn’t mean you never fail. It means that you live life to the fullest and learn from your experiences.

No one wants to reach the end of their life and not have achieved everything they wanted. No one wants to have “if only’s” and “what ifs.” Here are 14 tips for how to live life without regret at any age.

1. Reflect on your experiences. When you think about your past regrets and find the lesson in your failures and mistakes, you can avoid repeating them.
2. Take ownership of your life. It can be tempting to blame other people or outside events for your regrets. Yet you have the control to grow from adversity and express gratitude for what you have.
3. Become more self-aware. What do you really want from your life? Be in tune with yourself to learn what will make you truly happy.
4. Think for yourself. When you know what you want, it’s easier to go against the grain. To live life without regrets, you must prioritize what you need to make this one life worth living.
5. Let go of the past. Understand that everything happens for a reason. Find that reason and let your past experiences shape you into the person that you want to be.
6. Forgive. Forgiveness isn’t something you give someone else — it’s something you give yourself. When you truly forgive, you can let go of the past and move on.
7. Do what you love. Life is too short to waste your time doing things that don’t make you happy. Spend your time with your loved ones, find a fulfilling hobby, and give back through volunteering.
8. Discover your purpose. What makes you feel complete joy? What gets you out of bed each day? Your purpose is deeply connected to your fulfillment in life.
9. Take care of yourself. It’s difficult to have the energy to live without regrets if you are exhausted and run down. You can’t give to others when your own tank is empty.
10. Practice gratitude. A sense of abundance in your life can help lessen feelings of regret. Instead of regretting the things you don’t have, try to be grateful for all the things you do have.
11. Be open. Learning how to live life without regret after 50 (or any age) can be difficult. You may feel set in your ways, but being open to new experiences is essential.
12. Get out of your comfort zone. Comfort is the best friend of regret. Seek out new experiences. It’s never too late to overcome your fears.
13. Be present. Many people go through life stuck in the past or focused on the future. But why not put down your phone and enjoy the here and now?
14. Work toward your goals. Goals equal growth, so make a plan to achieve something — no matter how big or small it may seem. It’s never too late to go after your dreams.

Everyone wants to live life without regrets — and can. All you have to do is live boldly and dare to be your authentic self. Use these strategies to help ensure that when you reach the end of your life, you can be confident you did everything you could to make the most of it.

We all have things we regret doing — or things we regret not doing. We stay in unfulfilling jobs and unhealthy relationships. We pass up opportunities out of fear or uncertainty. Yet regret can also be a powerful driver for change. When you shift your view from “living my life with no regrets” to “living an authentic, purposeful life,” you’ll discover endless opportunities for personal growth.

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We all know living with regrets is pointless yet we all do it to every single day. I want to share a few of the reasons why I think we should stop doing that.

1. It poisons your outlook on the future

While we are all sitting around feeling stupid for doing the things we have done, all that does is reinforce the thought that it will always be the way things plan out in the future. Our brains can be programmed literally by our thoughts, and if we keep thinking that bad things will happen in the future we are only setting ourselves up for failure. The trick is not to keep holding onto our mistakes, because throughout our lives there are going to have to be some failures. Because, in my opinion, all we are doing is practising. If you don’t understand me when I say that then I would advise you to take a closer look at what you want to get out of life. You often have to be wrong in order to get to the right place. Notice more of the things you should be learning from. If we continually expect to be disappointed by it, life will always be generous enough to prove that to us. We are all imperfect, and we all make mistakes, so that we will learn from them.

2. Stunts your personal growth

If you continue to hold that red hot piece of hate in your heart, you will never realize that it is actually giving you an opportunity to look at yourself and the choices you make. It opens the door for you to choose a different path in life. It is up to you what you choose to do with your decisions. From each failure there is something to be learned, and life will continue to try and teach you, and those situations will keep happening until you make a personal change within yourself. Wouldn’t it be so nice for you to suddenly discover you actually made the right decision on this one?? You are the creator of your own destiny. Remember that.

3. Changes your opinion of yourself

Another reason why you should not take your past decisions to heart is because it allows you to think less of yourself. We all punish ourselves with mental torture after something bad happens. Things like “Why am I so stupid?” And “I am such an idiot” are not helpful. In order to take the best from any situation you must relieve yourself of your mental slagging. Be kind to yourself and realize that this setback could be the path to your true destiny. You never know where you’ll be in ten years. Don’t hold yourself back with being hard on yourself. At one point it was exactly what you wanted. You know the way we always do what we want to do, as humans? We usually put some thought into our actions and words, don’t we? Then don’t judge yourself harshly for weighing up the options, shooting for the stars and then missing. It happens to the best of us. You’re not a child, being told what to do with your life. You’re a fully comprehensive, functioning human being. And you know what’s best for you, even if it sometimes comes back to bite you!

4. It doesn’t change the past

No matter how much you think about it, all the things you should have, could have, or would have done. It won’t change what happened. But it can stop it from happening again, if you play your cards right. Move on. It’s not worth it.

5. It hurts you

The only person you are weighing down with all that pain is yourself. It holds you back from the life you want to make, the dreams you want to make a reality will keep getting further and further away. It’s like holding a hot piece of coal in your hands and hoping it will burn someone else. There’s no reason for that pain to keep hurting you. Stop reliving it. Do things that make you happy, and help you to grow as a person. Make yourself as useful as you can. You are so worth it. You can let go of this and let the experience of it sculpt you into the kind of person you always wanted to be.

So I hope I’ve given you a bit of food for thought. I hope I’ve made you see a bit clearer why you can make your life better without regrets.

Written by Rachel Morris – https://spunout.ie/voices/opinion/5-reasons-you-shouldnt-live-with-regrets

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“The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.”

We all have something stored in our memory banks of the past that we wish we could have done differently, or something we wish we didn’t do.

As we get older we learn and grow, but that doesn’t mean we have to regret what we did before we learned how to do things differently. If we didn’t go through those experiences, we might not have grown into the strong and knowledgeable people we are today.

What I’m proposing is that we get rid of the negative thoughts—the could haves, might haves, and should haves—and start living a life that won’t make us feel regretful. Not even at an older, wiser age.

Here is a list of things you can do to practice living life with no regrets:

1. Realize that it’s okay to make mistakes. Just make sure to learn from them, forgive yourself, and move on.

2. Make your health and wellness a top priority and always take care of yourself so you’re ready to take care of others.

3. Follow your own path, not one that others want you to follow.

4. Find the humor in life and laugh like there is no tomorrow.

5. Relax and move with the flow of life by being unafraid of change.

6. Be adventurous by trying new things and taking more risks.

7. Have more intellectual curiosity and embrace creativity.

8. Try to find happiness with as many different people as you can.

9. Think for yourself instead of letting other people’s opinions influence you too much.

10. Try not to judge people before you get to know them.

11. Be thankful for what you have now instead of thinking about what you don’t have.

12. Wish well upon everyone equally and try to admire without envy.

13. Share your happiness with others instead of hoarding it all for yourself.

14. Don’t try to change someone—love who they are now.

15. Enjoy the journey, not just the destination.

16. Know that happiness is bigger than any bank account.

17. Control negative thoughts so that they don’t contribute to the outcome of your life.

18. Use your energy wisely because spending energy complaining, worrying, or being impatient is just wasted energy.

19. Be bold. Find the courage to change things that should be changed and accept that there are some things that cannot be changed.

20. Love your work. If you don’t currently love what you do, figure out what you would love and take the first step toward that life.

21. Turn your discontent into a mystery and enjoy trying to solve it.

22. Face problems from different angles in order to find solutions.

23. Gain independence by realizing that on this earth we are all dependent upon each other.

24. Change your perspective by taking on a wider view of things.

25. Don’t waste time trying to bring disagreeable people around to liking you.

26. Become the person you would like to spend the rest of your life with.

27. Be honest with yourself and others by saying what you mean and meaning what you say.

28. Treat people with respect and compassion.

29. Live in the now by loving the present and being aware of your thoughts and actions. Think happy thoughts and speak powerful words.

30. Try not to put things off until later.

31. Never hold grudges.

32. Face your fears head on and try to do the things that you think you cannot do.

33. Spend time with people who make you happy while also not depending on other people for your own happiness.

34. Stand up for yourself and others and don’t let anyone or anything hold you back.

35. Be yourself and love who you are now.

36. Be a participant in life rather than an observer.

37. Do the things that you love to do as much as you can.

38. Write out a list of goals and achieve them by doing them step by step. Don’t give up when things get difficult.

39. Do something every day that makes you feel proud of yourself—commit random acts of kindness whenever you get the chance.

40. And always keep on moving forward.

I know it seems like a rather large list of things to take on, but you can accomplish a lot on this list by doing just one thing. For example, right now as I’m typing this I’m putting into practice at least eighteen things.

Put these things into practice and see where life takes you, without regrets.

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Three thoughts:

1. Sometimes we want to feel safer before moving forward by developing a clear plan, but this is not always possible. Having a goal or an intuitive hunch is often enough to move in a new direction. Even if a full plan is possible, you have to be ready to let it go as you move through your journey. Conditions change and unforeseen obstacles appear which will require you to be flexible. During the journey a lot of learning can happen, taking in new experiences and data should inspire you to reassess your strategy so you can be more effective. Not knowing how everything will play out can feel daunting but having a goal that drives you can function as a light through the dark unknown. If you take mindful steps that are in alignment with your values, steps where you intentionally treat yourself and others compassionately, then you will undoubtedly end up in a good place. How long it takes matters much less than how much you let yourself learn and evolve as you move through the process.

2. The way you have reacted to what you have felt in the past gets accumulated in the subconscious; this thick conditioning comes alive whenever we perceive something as similar to what we have encountered before. Whether the reactions are loud or subtle, your past uses them as a pathway to take over your present. Some people think that letting their reactions take control is being authentic, in reality that is just the quickest way to strengthen old patterns that don’t actually serve you well. Authenticity is a product of slowing down and allowing yourself to align with the way that you intentionally want to show up in this moment. Your immediate reaction is usually your old hurt/ego/defenses and the behavior it wants to take often creates messy results, whereas the intentional action you want to take comes after pausing and giving yourself a bit of time to process. It is absolutely possible to live intentionally, with kindness and compassion towards yourself and others, and still create healthy boundaries or defend yourself when it is actually necessary. You can be gentle with the world and still do whatever else is needed for your flourishing and preservation. You don’t need to resort to going back into survival mode when life gets hard, instead you can reclaim your power by taking your time to deal with situations skillfully.

3. Your anxiety and stress can draw vast narratives in your mind that have no basis in reality. A strong emotion can grab any little piece of information and build a story on top of it that keeps feeding its intensity. The mind is quick to jump into its imagination simply to keep the heavy reaction going. When the mind is in the midst of turbulence, it becomes easy to drop logical and sensible thinking. Fear and its manifestations push us into over-analyzing and place us in unhealthy mental loops, where we end up repeatedly increasing our own mental tension. This is common for all human beings. This pattern is reinforced by our need to survive and evade potential danger but if it goes unchecked it can also weigh down the mind and create behavioral complexes that make life more difficult. Recognizing what it feels like when you are in the midst of turbulence can help you cut the loop. Awareness is the light that helps break unconscious habit patterns. Similarly, training the mind to become comfortable in the present moment will help you have the strength to pull yourself out of imaginary negativity. You must get comfortable with turning your attention inward if you want to start living in a new way. When you become familiar with your own ups and downs, it will be easier to see when you are causing yourself misery.

” People pleasing disconnects you from yourself ”

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Three Thoughts:

1. Being willing to face your inner storms sometimes gets you so focused on your emotions and your past that you forget to look up and notice that you have actually taken many steps forward, that life is not the same anymore and that your behaviors are more vibrant and aligned with living in a way that supports your happiness. There is a moment of victory that eventually happens when you take your growth and healing seriously – you start to notice that you are no longer the same person who started the journey. Every day is not a great day, there are still plenty of challenges, but there is a new freshness to life and the low points are not as low as they were before. Tough emotions don’t take over your actions the way they used to. When you do react, it is no longer as intense or overwhelming. You are not perfectly happy all of the time, but that was never the goal to begin with, instead you feel a new sense of calmness because you more deeply embrace the fact that change is inevitable. You don’t fear the ups and downs, instead you glide with them. Joy is more available to you because you spend time cultivating your patience and your ability to appreciate the present moment. You know that there is still much to heal and more ways to grow, but now you are familiar with the rhythm of observing, accepting, letting go and allowing transformation to occur organically.

2. Fear and old hurt can make it hard to accept the selfless nature of love. In its highest forms, love is about giving, understanding, caring and all qualities that arise when you can look at another in an egoless manner and act in their best interest. Sometimes there is confusion, “if love is selfless, how do I go about taking care of myself?” The answer is that the love between people needs to be balanced with the self-love within you. From self-love arises communicating your needs, boundaries, and active commitments that help both people feel nourished. Yes, love is about giving, but self-love is about doing what you need to do to enhance your own inner light and knowing your own limits. Treating yourself well is critical if you want to build harmony with another human being. The interaction between love and self-love should help form a balance where both people can aspire to be selfless but at the same time are clear on what they need so that their personal happiness can be supported.

3. The ability to appreciate the perspective of another person is a great sign of maturity. Being able to see from different angles beyond the one that your lifelong conditioning has given you is only possible because your selflessness has helped you developed a healthy degree of letting go. If your ego is too dominant, then your attachment to your worldview becomes thick and inflexible. If your compassion has been amply cultivated through your growth and healing, then your mind will have the flexibility it needs to set aside what it knows so that it can truly feel and listen to a perspective even if it is in contradiction to its own. Being able to see the perspective of another does not negate what you personally observe. Life is multilinear and complex – multiple truths can exist side by side to each other. There is ignorance in holding one perspective as supreme, because in each situation and in each angle, there is more to know and see. Being open to expansion is not only a pathway to happiness, it is a key way to welcome wisdom into your mind.

” You have to be willing to admit when you have lost your way. It is normal to lose sight of what’s important, to stumble, and take a few steps backwards. Gently giving yourself the hard truth is the best method to realign and get back on the right path.”

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Three Thoughts:

1. The way you evaluate what you see has a direct influence on your thoughts, emotions, and overall mood. Your perception of your external environment has an undeniable impact on how you feel and react. The greatest determinant of how you experience life is your mind, but this does not mean that your environment has no affect on you. Jiddu Krishnamurti once wrote, “the inner creates the outer and the outer molds the inner.” The environments that you are in will end up conditioning your mind. What you watch, what you read, what you listen to, who you talk to, and really anything that you mentally consume will create subtle shifts in your mind that may not be immediately noticeable but over time they will start appearing as new ways of thinking and being. Some of these changes may be welcomed, but we have to be mindful to not accidentally grow in unwanted directions. You have to ask yourself, “what am I feeding my senses?” This is especially important to remember when you are in the midst of transformation, you are not helping yourself by being in environments that feed old patterns you are working on breaking.Emotional maturity is demonstrated by the way you handle the unavoidable ups and downs of life. What helps is simply knowing that good things come in waves, they are never eternally consistent. There is no way to create a life of perfection. Similarly, unwanted challenges will occasionally appear in our lives. Our only option then is to build the inner awareness to witness our own struggle when things go wrong and to then rise above our negative reactions so that we can respond to the situation in a productive manner. Emotional maturity is the ability to feel your own inner turbulence while staying connected to the present so that your past behaviors do not take control. This implies an expanded awareness that emerges from knowing yourself deeply – traversing your emotional history better equips you to sit with your feelings without giving them control over your actions. When we do not intentionally develop this skill, it becomes too easy to fall into a loop where our emotional reactions push us to reenact past defensive behaviors. Personal growth is not about removing all internal and external difficulties, it is about improving the way you handle them so that they no longer crush you when they appear.

2. The world is in a state of constant transformation. The two forces that push against each other and mold the ever-changing world are wisdom and ignorance. Wisdom encapsulates the vastness of love, the healing power of compassion, the experience of joy that comes from seeing others happy and well, the clarity of mental balance, and the knowledges that emerge from observing the universal truth of change. Wisdom in all of its varieties has a constructive quality, for example love brings people together to create nourishing unions and self-love within an individual can help one recognize their innate wholeness. Similarly, compassion is an energy and mode of action that can right wrongs and hold communities together in a harmonious manner. Ignorance demonstrates the heavier elements of the human condition, primarily self-centeredness and the absence of love or compassion. Ignorance is a block that keeps people on a shortsighted and ego dominated loop, it is a state of confusion that does not let people see what actions are genuinely good for them. Ignorance places people on a path where winning is considered giving the ego what it wants and relenting to selfish cravings. Ignorance has a destructive quality that is often guided by feelings of insecurity and fear. We all have the seeds of wisdom and ignorance within us. What brings hope is that we are in the midst of a historic healing wave. Countless people are taking their healing into their own hands and through this work, they are bringing themselves closer to wisdom. People are tired of being miserable and are actively finding ways to let go of the old hurt that they carry. As people become lighter and more loving, so will their actions and their design of society. Remember, your healing brings more of what is good into the world.

” Remember the people who lifted you up when you had nothing. The ones who could see something great in you before you could even see it yourself. The ones who gave to you and expected nothing in return. Once you start shining, appreciate their kindness by paying it forward. ”

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Questions & Answers

1. I’ve consumed most self-healing books, but my body and heart is still in pain. Why?

Healing is about feeling, not about thinking. Reading uses your ability to understand things at the intellectual level, but most healing happens at the level of experience. It is important to realize that the way you have reacted to what you have felt in the past gets imprinted into your subconscious, these imprints get hardened into habit patterns that impact your thoughts and behaviors. What you find in the long-term is that you end up reacting in similar ways that you have in the past. Undoing these reactions and learning how to live in a new way is truly a long journey that starts when you enhance your ability to feel and let go. Reading can help illuminate what is happening within you but healing requires presence between you and yourself. Bringing your attention inward and letting yourself feel your reality is the basis of a lot of healing modalities. Reading should be a source of information and inspiration, but it should move you into bringing a healing practice into your daily life. What made a drastic difference for me was serious meditation – going to retreats and then bringing meditation into my daily life. Meditating helped me break old habit patterns and helped me build new habits that are more aligned with presence and peace. There are a lot of different techniques that can help you heal, you have to find what works for you.

2. How to get over a break-up?

Let yourself accept what happened, it is the ending of a home so it is natural to feel sadness. What makes break ups hard is getting stuck in imagining the past and craving for something that is no longer there. The only way forward is to bring yourself back to the present moment. There is no set timeline or path to healing because hearts are unique. What you can do is work on your self-love, give yourself what you have been craving from others, feed your needs, connect with good friends and find joy in the small moments of life. Self-love is especially important because it is a gateway into getting to know yourself better and letting go of the past. This is also a good time to build new habits that can align you with a more fulfilling life. You can also make time to reassess what you are actually looking for in a partner. More than anything, your own acceptance will make you feel whole. Let this be a period of healing and evolution that radically improves your life.

3. If you could recommend one book to your younger self, what would it be and why?

The book that I have read more than any other is Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. I usually reread it every 1-2 years. The first time I read it I was about 24 years old. It is not only an incredible story, it has a lyrical quality that few books can match. The ups and downs that Siddhartha goes through and his overarching goal of freedom feels really accessible and inspiring. If I had read it when I was 15 or 16, it may have inspired me to start meditating at a younger age.

4. How do you cope with death? We all die one day but I fear that.

A lot of sorrow and suffering stems from our rejection of impermanence. The most widespread universal law is change, meaning that everything that arises will eventually pass away. Nothing and no one can hide from this movement of reality. What many forget to consider is the law of change is also the reason that we all exist, if things were always static and unchanging, the long stream of cause and effect that created life would not be possible. Many of us fear change, but we also need to be grateful for it because it gives us all the opportunity to be. If we embrace the temporary nature of being, it can actually inspire us into greater presence. Because we know things end, it moves us into greater appreciation of what is happening right in front of us. Embracing change gives you the courage to act on your dreams, to tell your dear ones that you love them, and to live your truth. The most beautiful aspect of embracing change is that it will encourage you to love better now, instead of later.

5. What can you do to connect with your true purpose and gifts?

Start healing yourself first and then you will come in contact with deeper and more genuine aspirations. Often, we end up pursuing what society and our parents have conditioned us to think is the right way to use our time. But for many that path will lead to dissatisfaction and lack of purpose. When you start turning inward to heal and let go, you start removing the layers of heavy conditioning and trauma that have been blocking your natural creativity from coming forward. When your mind is lighter, it will more easily connect with its talents and find a way to use those talents to serve others.

“ Everyday doesn’t have to be a big win for you to end up in a thriving and beautiful place. Transformation isn’t a smooth process. Cloudy days are bound to happen. Setbacks are natural. Down moments are expected. But in the end, small steps will get you to where you want to go. ”

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Three Thoughts:

1. The fastest thing that can squander a beautiful connection is attachment, meaning the craving to have things occur in very particular way. Often, attachment is exacerbated by fears that stem from our unhealed emotional history. Tumultuous and unobserved emotions snowball into insecurities which strengthen the misguided idea that pursuing our attachments is the only way to create safety and abundance in our lives. Our hurt tricks us into thinking that our only way to keep love is to cling to it. Insecurity will manifest itself as control, which blocks the flow of real love. The truth is that only open hands can carry love well; hands that are closed tightly cannot receive or give love. Love’s closest synonym is freedom, which means that love is not something that can thrive in a constricted environment. Love needs space to stretch, expand, and flow. A common fear is that without the constraints of attachments and expectations love will never be able to last. Love between two people does require a middle ground where both can meet, but attachments cannot provide this space because they are far too rigid. Healthy love creates its middle ground through calm communication and voluntary commitments. Commitments are mutually agreed upon actions and ways of being that both partners feel good about. Commitments work because they are simultaneously sturdy and flexible. When each person decides that their needs or wants have shifted, they can also shift how they show up for each other in the relationship. Harmonious partners align their commitments with their growth and with clear ways to support each other’s happiness.

2. Confusion comes from being disconnected from your intuition. Learning how to go along with what feels right, not in the sense of following your cravings, but in the sense of moving in the direction of what supports your evolution and your highest good, is a necessary skill to learn. There are two critical things to understand about intuition. One is that it doesn’t care about your comfort zone. It will ask you to be bold and brave even if you do not feel ready. Just like love, intuition is also a vehicle for growth. If you listen to it, it will help elevate you to new personal heights, but to get there you will have to face the heaviness that is weighing you down so you can fully let it go. The second is that it may ask you to place yourself in difficult situations where you have to face your fears, but it’ll never ask you to hurt yourself. Your intuition will ask you to be courageous, but it will not ask you to be reckless. Attuning yourself to your intuition is a personal process. For me, intuition feels like a calm knowing that appears in the body. If I don’t listen to it the first time it will reappear sporadically with tranquil certainty. Intuition has a softness to it, even when it asks you to make bold moves. Intuition is quite different from the reactive rambles of the mind or moments of emotional turbulence – both of these often carry tension whereas intuition flows with important information that can help you.

3. Our society glorifies speed, big leaps forward, and meteoric rises, but reality usually moves at a slower pace, especially when it comes to personal transformation. Every day doesn’t have to be a big win for you to end up in a thriving and beautiful place. Transformation isn’t a smooth process. Cloudy days are bound to happen. Setbacks are natural. Down moments are expected. But in the end, small steps will get you to where you want to go. Evolving into a new you is a slow and intentional process where you have to essentially build the new habits that you need to live a more peaceful and fulfilling life. Teaching your mind to move in a new direction will take repetition and time. Often, it will feel like you are moving against a strong current of old conditioning, but eventually the new you will more easily come forward. Our task as we move into a new way of living is to reorient our idea of success away from fast results and fully embrace small daily accomplishments. This is how we build momentum for the long journey. Remember, happiness is not achieved overnight, peace takes time to build, a healthy mind requires slow and gentle tending.

“ Feel. Unbind. Unload. Breathe. Expand. And Be Free. ”

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What’s the first question most people ask when they first meet?… It’s likely… “What do you do?” This has become the new “How’s it going?” or “How about that weather?”.

Here’s a list of some better icebreaker questions to consider. I’ve broken them into mild, medium and intense. Let me know what do you think and let’s practice it at our walks. Remember we are all about Walking n’ Talking.

MILD questions:

1. Any upcoming travel plans?
2. What brought you here?
3. How long have you been with the group?
4. When you’re not working, how do you like to spend your time?
5. What are you reading currently?
6. What’s the first concert you attended?
7. Where do you most hope to visit?
8. What’s your favorite book?
9. What’s your favorite 90’s show?
10. What’s the best Halloween costume you’ve ever had?
11. What’s your dream job?
12. What’s your favorite word?
13. What was your first job?
14. What’s one thing you’re excited about that’s coming up in 2018?
15. What was the worst job you’ve ever had?
16. What is your most-used emoji?
17. If you could win an Olympic medal for any sport, real or fake, what would it be?
18. If you could change your name, what would it be?
19. What movie or TV show title best describes your week?
20. What was your favorite subject in school?
21. What’s your hidden talent?
22. If you had to eat one thing for every meal going forward, what would you eat?
23. If someone were to play you in a movie, who would you want it to be?

MEDIUM questions:

1. If you could spend a day in someone else’s shoes, whose would they be? Why?
2. What’s one thing your mother/father taught you that completely changed your life?
3. What’s been on your mind lately?
4. What’s the first career you dreamed of having as a kid?
5. What’s the last text you sent?
6. What’s one of your favorite memories?
7. What’s one thing about you that surprises people?
8. Who, or what, was your biggest teacher?
9. What was something you’ve done that made you feel extreme happiness?
10. Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give your 18-year-old self?
11. If you could instantly become an expert in something, what would it be?
12. What does success mean to you?
13. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
14. Where is your happy place?
15. If you could invite 3 people, dead or alive, to a dinner party, who would they be, and why?
16. How can someone win a gold star with you?
17. What energizes you and brings you excitement?
18. What qualities do you value in the people with whom you spend time?
19. For what would you be famous?
20. What does your dream day look like?
21. If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?
22. What’s your guilty pleasure?
23. At what job would you be terrible?
24. If you had to choose only 3 adjectives to describe yourself, which would you choose?

INTENSE questions:

1. What matters the most to you?
2. What is a dream you have that you’ve yet to achieve?
3. What’s something you say you’ll do, but never will?
4. What did you have to give up to achieve your current level of success?
5. Has anything ever happened to you that you could not, and cannot, explain?
6. Do you ever find there are things about you that people misunderstand? What are they?
7. For what are you most grateful today?
8. If you could have one ‘do over’ in your life, what would you do differently?
9. Of what are you most afraid?

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Merged from: NJ Walk n’ Talk – Inspirational Blog

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